Passion

without-purpose-you-have-no-direction-Unlike animals whose primary drive is to survive, humans strive to make the most out of ourimages-1 life, to create, foster, and yes to leave a legacy. To do this we need to know our life’s purpose, our why.

Without knowing our purpose there is a lack of direction and lack of control. Life is missing joy, meaning, and interest. Our happiness factor is diminished and we feel like we’re on the treadmill of life; moving but not really going anywhere.

images-8Understanding our why allows us to rise above a focus on survival mode (the meeting of our emotional and physical needs) to one where we can focus on our purpose in life. It also helps us to contribute to the world around us (heck even to the entire world!) by focusing on not only what we are good at but also what enjoy doing. Living our why provides more joy and happiness in our life. Sign me up for more of that please! 🙂

There is a ton of literature and websites to help us discover our why – there is also no one right way to uncover it. You can spend lots of money, read dozen’s of books, spend hours perusing the web but we need to locate our own why; it is unique for each of us.

purposeTo discover our why we need to know what our passion(s) are, our values, our natural talents, and our skills/experience. If we don’t take the time to understand these key pieces to our why we will steer our lives in a direction that won’t deliver us to living our life’s purpose – our why.

Passion fuels everything in our life. It fuels our energy to keep going and our ambition to keep trying. It is the drive to be who we want to be. Passion is the lens in which we see and experience the world – it is the container in which we shape our why.

Passion is more than enthusiasm or excitement. Passion is ambition which materializes into action. We are passionate about something when we put as much of our heart, mind, body, and soul into something as humanly possible. A key to know when you are tapping into a passion is when you enter into “flow.” Flow is when you are doing something that energizes and excites you, time just seems to fly; hours have passed yet it feels like only minutes.

put-on-this-world-to-achieve-your-greatest-self-So how do we know what we are passionate about? Try these simple steps to help uncover your passion:

  1. Act as a Turtle and Find Your Inner Sherlock Holmes. Slow life wwaaaay down.images-4 Take time to experience each moment – be actively present as you move through your day. When we can slow down, we can tap into the best version of ourselves and find the answers we are searching for. Notice the clues. Listen to your thoughts and signals from your body. Feel your feelings. Be keenly aware of the messages that we are constantly being fed. When we can quiet our minds, our subconscious and true sell will speak. This is one of the most difficult things to do but is vitally important to uncovering our why! This step will take more time for some than others – some find it easy to slow down and to be present, others need to practice and develop awareness.
  2. Replace Your Board of Directors. We all tell ourselves stories about who we are,images-5 what we can and cannot do, why we are the way we are, etc. Are these stories and inner voices truly accurate? What comments are our inner critics (our Board of Directors) telling us today that are deep seated in the past? Are they helping or are they hindering? If we feel the voices are holding us back, replace them with new Board Members that will support our desire to be more confident and courageous so we may stretch and grow. We must remove these limiting beliefs, the stories that are not true about ourselves so that we can be crystal clear on what we were born to do.
  3. Eliminate the Groundhog. Remember the movie Groundhog Day? Once Bill Murrayimages-6 realized that he was reliving the same day over and over, he was able to fix the things that were irritating and kept going wrong. We need to be an observer of our daily patterns, habits, and interactions with others. What parts do we enjoy and what do we abhor? Recognition will help us to be clear on what our reoccurring habits and patterns of behavior are doing to enhance or limit our ability to use our passion.
  4. Turn Off Our Inner Autopilot. We need to take our lives off of cruise mode. Make aimages-7 conscious decision to un-numb ourselves by picking up our heads and removing the blinders so we clearly see what parts of daily life we enjoy and what parts we want to make a plan to modify. Have you ever showed up at work and wondered how you go there?  That’s autopilot. Disengage your autopilot so you can experience life to discover and then enjoy your passions.
  5. Brain Dump. With the results from steps one through four. For a week (or longer) take time to images-2write down your thoughts and experiences. While you were tapping into your inner turtle and Sherlock Holmes what did you discover about yourself? What answers did you find when you quieted your mind? What joy did you experience when you replaced some Board Members, eliminated the groundhog, and disengaged the autopilot? Write about your experiences. What did you like? What made you loose track of time? What made you happy? What made you pat yourself on the back and say I ROCK! Remember to remain focused on what you enjoyed and can do – loose the attention that we all too often give to what we should do or can’t do. What I like to call the shoulda, woulda, coulda syndrome.

Through being present and cognizant during this time of reflection, we can examine what puts us into flow, what we truly love doing, what makes us excited, happy, and fulfilled.

Passion, values, talents, and skills/expertise are the components to the equation of discovering our purpose – our why. This post is step one out of four to discover our why. We learned our talents/strengths already; next week we will review our personal values.

Have a great week everyone!

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Living My Dash

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Life is good.

Life is affirming.

Lately I’m on a high…on a role…enthusiastic and energized!

images-8I have been slowing life down (metaphorically) the last several months. Retrospection and introspection can be very healthy things every now and then and are also parts of my cocooning.  As Farris Bueller said in his movie Farris Bueller’s Day Off: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” 

In my teen years I started to realize that I had a gift for listening to and connecting with people. I would hear things like: “I feel like you truly care. Thank you for really listening to me! Wow, how did you see that in me? No one has ever acknowledged that before!”

At the time there wasn’t a term that described this gift, but there is today; it’s called coaching.

Throughout my career, I have taken many assessments on personalities, natural strengths, communication style, interaction with others; etc….These assessments have consistently nudged me to follow this gift yet I didn’t listen. I regularly rejected my inner voice’s whispers telling me to follow my heart, my talent, let go, trust.

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As I reflect on why I didn’t listen to these whispers, I quickly see it was driven by fear. My inner critic would rear up and tackle me to the ground as I thought about following my gifts. To make such a shift would require me to take a huge leap of faith; something very foreign to a person who always had a plan of action and yes, played it safe.

As I look back on my first half of life, I can see that this was a gift I was born with. A skill that for many years I didn’t always utilize yet in the last year I have embraced and fostered. I have fed my gift with knowledge, resources, and insights. It is being honed and enhanced and I’m becoming stronger and more skilled – the bonus is I’m also feeling more confident.

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In October, I entered an eight-month coaching certification program through the Hudson Institute of Coaching. Last week I was in Santa Barbara at a four-day intensive training session. The session was fantastic and affirming! The reading and coaching work between session one in October and session two last week was transformative and confirmed that I’ve made the right decision to follow my passion and to grow my natural gifts. I am ecstatic with what the future will bring now in my second half of life.  I’m still a little fearful, but faith in my abilities is beginning to overshadow that feeling, at least a little. 😉

You may be wondering why I titled this post Living My Dash. On Monday February 9, Frederic M. Hudson (who started the Hudson Institute in the mid-1980’s) succumbed to the devastating disease of Alzheimer’s. In my last blog post I reviewed some of the wisdom within his book titled Adult Years. He was highly intelligent, articulate, and lived life with joy and vigor – he will remain a cherished role model to all who came in contact with him.

When I loose people I care about and/or have been influenced by, I take some time to hit the pause button to reflect upon on my own life. How am I feeling about my life? Where am I going? What shift can I make to ensure my life is as fulfilling as it can be? I am also reminded of Linda Ellis’ poem, The Dash.

imagesLinda’s poem reminds us of the symbolism of the “dash” on our tombstone; year of birth, dash, year of death. The dash is our entire life’s contribution. It represents our relationships, the mark, and the impact we’ve made on the world. If you have not yet been exposed to her simple yet compelling poem I encourage you to do so. It has touched many people and provided them the courage to make changes in their lives.

When we experience loss of life, we should reflect on our dash. Heck we’re still alive and we can make immediate changes. When we hit the pause button and see there are things that are not working, we aren’t experiencing happiness on a regular basis, relationships are not fulfilling, or our life’s work and contribution isn’t meaningful, we have the chance to change it now before the date on the right side of the dash is upon us.

images-1I am thankful for Dr. Hudson’s work, research, and understanding of the adult years. He provided his readers and students with a road map and compass to navigate their unique and special journey through life. In his book he shared an eight-word chant he used when he entered a life transition.

The chant goes like this: “hold on, let go, take on, move on.” I liked this phrase/chant so much that I have the passage highlighted and the page dog-eared in his book.

In honor of Dr. Frederic M. Hudson:

I will hold on to his wisdom, understanding, and keen sense of the adult journey.
I will let go of my former self and metamorphous into each of life’s chapters.
I will take on his teachings and explore/live life’s many options.
I will move on by committing to use his life’s work and teachings to become a better human being.

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